Very lovely read. Also agree it's not 100% a white thing, especially when I run out of fingers to count my non-white friends also feeling this struggle.

I saw a post the other day on Tumblr that was pretty much "fuck independence" and talked about how it's ok to be interdependent, because we can't do EVERYTHING on our own, like run a farm for food, sew our own clothes, etc. It was really heartwarming, because it's hard when you're not privileged enough to move out and live wherever.