I don't know about the one-sidedness, though. I've not really had that, to my knowledge.
So like, have you ever had a stranger go through the backlog of your fic and leave comments on stuff that's three or four years old? Because I do that to people sometimes, and I always feel like a bit of a creeper.
Then again, there's some feedback that's always lovely to get in your inbox and some that's not particularly welcome. Thankfully I don't get a lot of this, but it's always unpleasant when some rando shows up with uninvited concrit that totally misses the point of the story. For example, I once wrote a 20k-word fic about Super Mario Bros narrated primarily from Peach's perspective, which is that she's mostly just hanging out with Bowser until Mario suddenly shows up at the very end. Some rando left a comment to the effect of "no one cares about Peach, tell us more about Mario, it would make your writing stronger to show multiple perspectives." I don't actually dislike concrit, but I make a point of deleting that sort of garbage posthaste.
Anyway, I'm sorry to hear that you had a weird experience of your own. It's always so strange how we understand on an abstract, intellectual level that this sort of male-gendered behavior is not uncommon, but then when it actually happens to us we're like what the fuck dude, especially if it's coming from someone we know. Honestly, like,
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Date: 2017-07-28 06:04 pm (UTC)So like, have you ever had a stranger go through the backlog of your fic and leave comments on stuff that's three or four years old? Because I do that to people sometimes, and I always feel like a bit of a creeper.
Then again, there's some feedback that's always lovely to get in your inbox and some that's not particularly welcome. Thankfully I don't get a lot of this, but it's always unpleasant when some rando shows up with uninvited concrit that totally misses the point of the story. For example, I once wrote a 20k-word fic about Super Mario Bros narrated primarily from Peach's perspective, which is that she's mostly just hanging out with Bowser until Mario suddenly shows up at the very end. Some rando left a comment to the effect of "no one cares about Peach, tell us more about Mario, it would make your writing stronger to show multiple perspectives." I don't actually dislike concrit, but I make a point of deleting that sort of garbage posthaste.
Anyway, I'm sorry to hear that you had a weird experience of your own. It's always so strange how we understand on an abstract, intellectual level that this sort of male-gendered behavior is not uncommon, but then when it actually happens to us we're like what the fuck dude, especially if it's coming from someone we know. Honestly, like,