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I think that's a really important place to reach, knowing when Anxiety You is making a decision. One of my friends uses the "what would it look like if..." question to ask herself what other potential outcomes are, or "what is the worst outcome of this? why? does that even make any sense? How likely is it?" So for example if the situation is "I got in bitch mode at the old dude who kept talking over me then took credit for my suggestion, in front of my boss and my C-suite," anxiety brain might THINK the worst case scenario is "escorted out by jackbooted security personnel and destitute in the street," but in reality, a. there would be discussions with HR and remediation; b. my husband and I would figure it out; c. I have marketable skills I can use elsewhere and friends in the field who could hook me up in short order. Which helps me soothe Anxiety Me, and also consider decisions from her perspective.