Rynling R&D

Just wanted to toss in my two cents, because I have feelings on this. The whole asking yourself "what is the worst outcome of this" thing doesn't work for me. Mostly because my super anxious brain will plummet in a downward spiral with no end and I have a hard time prying myself out of it. It's all overexaggerated and 99% likely not going to happen for reals, but the minute I ask myself "well what's the worst that could happen?" it's like I just walked off a cliff into the abyss. I usually need an outside source to pull me back to safety (usually my boyfriend) and even then it takes me a while to mentally recover. Though honestly, having a sounding board in general is helpful in the anxiety department. Like having someone else who is completely detached from your anxiety to be like, "Yeah no, that's not going to happen, but this, this, and this probably will" is really comforting. Sometimes no matter how much you douse yourself in self-care or The Right Treatment for you, your brain is still wired oddly and framing this in a less toxic light can be exhausting or just flat out difficult. It's not to say you shouldn't ever ask yourself things like "what's the worst that could happen?" But more like if you're going to brave a stormy ocean for the first time, maybe you should have someone else manning the boat, because at least they thought to bring the boat while you were just going to rely on your pool floatation device. Hell, I've been out to sea on storm waters for decades and I'm still sending out SOS signals. And that's ok.