Shipping Isn't Morality
Apr. 4th, 2019 09:21 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rynling(from Shipping Isn't Morality)
https://shipping-isnt-morality.tumblr.com/post/183726148328/yknow-its-been-a-while-since-i-made-this
This is a good post in the ongoing pushback against fandom purity discourse and respectability politics. I ended up reading through almost two dozen pages of this blog last night, and it was an enlightening experience. This person also runs an anti receipt blog (that posts screenshots of harassment, rape threats, and so on), and I admire that they're so good-natured despite having seen and experienced so much garbage.
I also found another good chain [here] about how, basically, "if I was eight years younger and wandering into fandom for the first time, I can guarantee that the culture right now would've fucked me up and ground me down and taken away all my healthy outlets."
I still haven't found much of anything that addresses some of the particular problems I've experienced in the Zelda fandom, which are much more intersectional than most of the issues I see discussed on fandom positivity blogs. I will keep looking, but it's been a journey.
I should qualify all of this by saying that I'm not a huge fan of the idea that fandom has to be therapeutic or serve some purpose in order to be valid. There's another good chain [here] that highlights the misogyny and homophobia of the assumption that female and queer fantasies need to be "productive" in order to be allowed to exist. Sometimes you just want to see attractive people have kinky sex for no good reason, and that's okay.
https://shipping-isnt-morality.tumblr.com/post/183726148328/yknow-its-been-a-while-since-i-made-this
When I say "abuse is the fault of the abuser," I don’t mean in just a pure metaphysical, "everyone's responsible for their own actions" kind of way. I mean that abusers start with their abusive behavior, and then fill in whatever behavior and excuses they have to to justify it to themselves and their victims. Maybe it's media. Maybe it's substance abuse. Maybe it's past abuse that they suffered. Maybe it's some psychology mumbo-jumbo about projecting past trauma onto you. Maybe it's mental illness. Maybe it's anything. [...]
Abusers choose to hurt you. They know that their actions will hurt you, and they choose to do it anyways.
Everything after that is an excuse.
Abusers choose to hurt you. They know that their actions will hurt you, and they choose to do it anyways.
Everything after that is an excuse.
This is a good post in the ongoing pushback against fandom purity discourse and respectability politics. I ended up reading through almost two dozen pages of this blog last night, and it was an enlightening experience. This person also runs an anti receipt blog (that posts screenshots of harassment, rape threats, and so on), and I admire that they're so good-natured despite having seen and experienced so much garbage.
I also found another good chain [here] about how, basically, "if I was eight years younger and wandering into fandom for the first time, I can guarantee that the culture right now would've fucked me up and ground me down and taken away all my healthy outlets."
I still haven't found much of anything that addresses some of the particular problems I've experienced in the Zelda fandom, which are much more intersectional than most of the issues I see discussed on fandom positivity blogs. I will keep looking, but it's been a journey.
I should qualify all of this by saying that I'm not a huge fan of the idea that fandom has to be therapeutic or serve some purpose in order to be valid. There's another good chain [here] that highlights the misogyny and homophobia of the assumption that female and queer fantasies need to be "productive" in order to be allowed to exist. Sometimes you just want to see attractive people have kinky sex for no good reason, and that's okay.
