Ah! I think I misinterpreted what kind of help you were talking about here, and I'm very sorry that misinterpretation appears to have resulted in talking out of my ass. Putting oneself out there and being ignored sucks unequivocally. I am so sorry :( In that light, yeah, I agree with the cost-benefit analysis.
It's interesting, too, how the support networks work differently in different fandoms. I've broadly found that the smaller FF fandoms (pre-7 plus Tactics) have been fairly supportive (maybe because there aren't that many of us?) and likewise, in my recent dip into a very small corner of Marvel (Winterhawk) I've found a very enthusiastic and sweet group, but other fandoms haven't seemed nearly as welcoming (*makes warding signs at Bioware*). And maybe that's just me and the particular people I tripped across? I mean, I like to think I make an effort at being supportive of the people I encounter; but also I'm only one person and, as you said we've all got baggage, and sometimes I struggle with mine. So I dunno.
in conclusion, yeah, may we all be in better places, and better situated to help each other. (One of my goals, perpetually: always lift more people, and if I can't, at least never leave them worse off than I found them, either through action or inaction.)
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Date: 2020-01-12 06:07 am (UTC)It's interesting, too, how the support networks work differently in different fandoms. I've broadly found that the smaller FF fandoms (pre-7 plus Tactics) have been fairly supportive (maybe because there aren't that many of us?) and likewise, in my recent dip into a very small corner of Marvel (Winterhawk) I've found a very enthusiastic and sweet group, but other fandoms haven't seemed nearly as welcoming (*makes warding signs at Bioware*). And maybe that's just me and the particular people I tripped across? I mean, I like to think I make an effort at being supportive of the people I encounter; but also I'm only one person and, as you said we've all got baggage, and sometimes I struggle with mine. So I dunno.
in conclusion, yeah, may we all be in better places, and better situated to help each other. (One of my goals, perpetually: always lift more people, and if I can't, at least never leave them worse off than I found them, either through action or inaction.)
I am always, always happy to listen. ♥