Re: Git Gud, Part Two
Aug. 25th, 2023 07:35 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rynlingA follow-up on yesterday's yelling about the business of being a writer.
All three editors I contacted yesterday got back to me immediately.
Two of them have Covid. Well, I mean, one is most definitely lying about having Covid, but that's okay. I hope they're doing well. The other almost certainly does indeed have Covid. That's very scary, and I hope they're doing well.
ETA: Just to be clear, I firmly believe that anyone should be able to use Covid as an excuse for anything at any time. Work sucks and people need time to chill.
The third... Damn. How do I put this.
The third maybe has a different understanding of consensus reality than I do, which I guess is probably fairly common in artistic people. I think it might be a good idea to limit my contact with this person in the future. I hope they're okay, but still.
Regarding that last one, a common piece of advice for aspiring creatives is: "Just do your best and submit! What's the worst that could happen, they could say no?" The truth is that there are all sorts of terrible things that could happen, on top of and in addition to someone saying no.
An important part of self-advocacy, at least for someone like me, is to remind yourself that you don't deserve to be the recipient of bad behavior. If the golden rule is "treat others as you wish to be treated yourself," maybe the silver rule should be "don't allow yourself to be treated as you wouldn't treat someone else."
And that's also part of the business of being a writer, for real.
All three editors I contacted yesterday got back to me immediately.
Two of them have Covid. Well, I mean, one is most definitely lying about having Covid, but that's okay. I hope they're doing well. The other almost certainly does indeed have Covid. That's very scary, and I hope they're doing well.
ETA: Just to be clear, I firmly believe that anyone should be able to use Covid as an excuse for anything at any time. Work sucks and people need time to chill.
The third... Damn. How do I put this.
The third maybe has a different understanding of consensus reality than I do, which I guess is probably fairly common in artistic people. I think it might be a good idea to limit my contact with this person in the future. I hope they're okay, but still.
Regarding that last one, a common piece of advice for aspiring creatives is: "Just do your best and submit! What's the worst that could happen, they could say no?" The truth is that there are all sorts of terrible things that could happen, on top of and in addition to someone saying no.
An important part of self-advocacy, at least for someone like me, is to remind yourself that you don't deserve to be the recipient of bad behavior. If the golden rule is "treat others as you wish to be treated yourself," maybe the silver rule should be "don't allow yourself to be treated as you wouldn't treat someone else."
And that's also part of the business of being a writer, for real.
