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Genderqueer
Apr. 16th, 2019 09:02 am"I hate lesbians," my nonbinary friend says to me with a complete absence of irony, "because I think it's disgusting how they sexualize the female body."
"I also hate gay women for... being women... and gay," I stammer, struggling to figure out the correct response.
I don't identify as male or female, but I've been having a lot of trouble dealing with the misogyny of nonbinary communities both online and in person. I'm also frustrated with the double standard that dmab nonbinary people can present their gender however they want while dfab nonbinary people all have to look like fourteen-year-old boys in order to be accepted by the community. And I'm not saying that it's wrong to enjoy or identify with a certain type of idealized androgyny, obviously, but the tyranny of The Three LGBTQ-Approved Haircuts™ is real.
I think I'm going to drop "nonbinary" and identify as "genderqueer" from here on out.
"But your gender identity is a slur!!1!"
Yeah, it sure feels that way most of the time, to be honest.
"I also hate gay women for... being women... and gay," I stammer, struggling to figure out the correct response.
I don't identify as male or female, but I've been having a lot of trouble dealing with the misogyny of nonbinary communities both online and in person. I'm also frustrated with the double standard that dmab nonbinary people can present their gender however they want while dfab nonbinary people all have to look like fourteen-year-old boys in order to be accepted by the community. And I'm not saying that it's wrong to enjoy or identify with a certain type of idealized androgyny, obviously, but the tyranny of The Three LGBTQ-Approved Haircuts™ is real.
I think I'm going to drop "nonbinary" and identify as "genderqueer" from here on out.
"But your gender identity is a slur!!1!"
Yeah, it sure feels that way most of the time, to be honest.
